I always wonder
- What is the meaning of Success?
- How do you measure how successful you are?
Are you a successful person if you have billions of dollars
in your bank account? Can you measure success in terms of money, power, fame or
your fancy educational degrees?
I am not giving answer to the last question as you can
figure out this by yourself. What I believe is that success is “relative”.
There is nothing like absolute success. Obliviously we have to compare our achievements
with someone else to know how successful we are. Then what are your chances? I
guess you will always find yourself in the middle. Funny isn’t it? No matter
how hard you try you will always remain in the middle because you always going
to find someone below your level as well as above your level.
For me, more important question is “Does it necessary to be
successful in life?” “Does it guarantee a happy life?”
Then another question arise “How many successful people are
happy with their life?”
I think we don’t require a pile of money or power or fame to
be happy. You can not buy happiness with all the money in this world. I have
seen many people in my life that can’t be considered as successful in terms of different
measures yet they are happy and enjoying life.
May be I could be wrong but what I have observed that the
people running after the “illusion of success” are not so happy. May be they
are so busy running after mirage that they don’t have enough time to see the
happiness moments lying around.
So do you need to stop running after success? No I am not
advising something like that because it doesn’t matter. Though I will surely suggest
one thing
“Don’t let others to set the milestones for your success, do
it yourself.”
If you will allow someone else to measure your success you
are doomed for failure. Mostly your success will be their success and your
failure will be your failure.
If you ask for my opinion I will choose happiness over
success.
Happiness
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Success
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- you don’t need anything to be happy
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- you need some criteria to measure your success
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- happiness doesn’t divide
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- without comparison it’s hard to know about it
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- happiness is a state of life
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- just statistics
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- everyone likes a happy fellow
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- YOUR OWN OPINION
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- nobody cares if you are happy or not
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- people will admire your success
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- you can loose and still can be happy
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- you always have to win
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So what can I say, don’t think in terms of success or
failure, do your efforts but stop worrying about results. Life has so much to
offer give it a chance.
You must be wondering are there any “successful happy person”?
Yes. In thousands.
What I have observed is that this kind of people doesn’t run
after success. Success comes to them.
The difference between them and ordinary people is that they
choose their own path. They don’t give it a damn about what others are saying.
And they do what they love to do, not what they have to do.
It’s hard or impossible to achieve success on other’s
formula of success. You have to invent your own. Where is the joy to walk on
someone else’s path? Also you can’t tell where it will lead to.
If you don’t like what you are doing right now just throw it
away. Act instead of thinking about it. Unless you open the doors how will you
know that it’s Spring outside not Winter?
The biggest enemies of a person dire to success are not
outside factors, its inside. Our doubts. Generally we don’t allow new opportunities
to come to us by asking questions like “I can’t do that”, “What will happen to
me”, “What if I am wrong”, “What people will say”, “This is just stupid it’s
not practical”, … Ok you can go on adding execuses to this list as long as you
want. If you will ask yourself you will know that its mere speculations. If you
can get out of this mental cage then you have a chance to be a winner.
Otherwise yow always be a frog in the well thinking the well is the whole
world.
I believe that when we do something that we really like and
we enjoy doing it, we can do it more effectively. We like to improve ourselves
and this will be an honest effort because here you have to compete with
yourself. When you are forced to do whatever you are doing right now then you
can guess the outcome.
So first you have to know what you want to do and you have
to start doing it.
“There is a difference between knowing the path and walking
the path”
You have only one life, give it an opportunity, seek for
happiness, and success will come to you.
